This visual poster explains the concept of masking in children, showing the clear difference between what adults see on the outside and what a child may be experiencing underneath. It focuses on how some children, especially those who are neurodivergent, including autism (ASD) or ADHD, may hide their true thoughts, emotions and difficulties in order to fit in, follow rules or feel safe.
The resource uses a simple iceberg model to break this down. The top section shows behaviours that are often praised or misunderstood, such as being quiet, well behaved, doing well at school or appearing to cope. Under the surface, it highlights the effort behind these behaviours, including copying others, forcing social interaction, hiding confusion and trying not to stand out. Deeper levels explore the emotional and mental health impact, such as anxiety, overwhelm, exhaustion, meltdowns at home and feeling different. At the deepest level, it shows the longer term impact on self-esteem, identity, help-seeking and fear of judgement.
This printable PDF poster is useful for building awareness of masking behaviour in children and young people. It helps adults better understand behaviour that may otherwise be misread, supporting a more compassionate and informed response. It can be used to start conversations about emotional wellbeing, mental health, behaviour and unmet needs.
Suitable for parents, carers, teachers, SEN staff, social workers, therapists, counsellors and other professionals working with children and teenagers. It is particularly helpful in education, pastoral support, safeguarding work and therapeutic settings to support understanding of hidden distress, emotional regulation and social difficulties.
