This free printable PDF poster explains what children need before their behaviour can change. It is based on a clear, child-centred understanding of emotional development, regulation and behaviour.
The poster outlines six key conditions that support positive behaviour change: safety, connection, felt understanding, support with regulation, predictability, and developmentally realistic expectations. It explains clearly that behaviour does not improve because a child is told to behave better. Behaviour changes when adults create the right conditions around the child.
This resource is especially useful for children, kids and young people who struggle with emotional regulation, behaviour, anxiety, overwhelm or stress. It highlights that children cannot calm down on command and need calm, available adults to help them regulate before learning and behaviour change can happen. It also challenges common myths about behaviour, making it clear that punishment and rewards do not create emotional safety or nervous system regulation.
The poster is suitable for parents, carers, foster carers, adoptive parents, teachers, teaching assistants, social workers, family support workers and other professionals working with children, teens and young people. It works well as a visual reminder in homes, schools, therapy rooms, offices and training or family support settings.
This is a downloadable printable poster that offers clear, practical guidance on children’s behaviour, emotions, wellbeing and healthy development, using simple language that is easy to understand and apply in everyday situations.
