When My Parents Say No is a gentle and supportive free social story that helps young children understand why adults sometimes say “no” and how to respond calmly when they feel upset or disappointed. Using simple language and clear examples, the story reassures children that their feelings are valid, while also teaching them positive ways to manage those emotions.
This resource is ideal for home, school, therapy sessions, or emotional regulation support, especially for children with autism, ADHD, or difficulties with frustration and emotional control.
What’s Included in the Social Story?
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Clear explanations of real-life situations – For example, when a child is told they cannot do or have something they want
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Validates emotions – Acknowledges that it is okay to feel sad, angry, or disappointed
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Positive coping strategies – Suggests calming actions like deep breaths, going to a quiet space, or asking respectful questions such as “When can I do it?”
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Encourages safe behaviour – Explains the importance of not shouting, hitting, or arguing
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Supports self-regulation – Promotes problem-solving, flexible thinking, and emotional growth
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Reinforces love and safety – Reminds children that their parents care about them even when they say no
How Can It Be Used?
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At home with parents or carers – A gentle way to talk through common daily struggles and prepare for tricky moments
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In early years and primary classrooms – Can support behaviour plans, PSHE lessons, and classroom routines
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In therapy or SEN sessions – Helps children with additional needs understand boundaries and practise emotional regulation
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Before transitions or outings – Use in advance to prepare children for situations where they might hear “no”
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As part of calm-down kits or social skills groups – Can be paired with visual supports or emotion cards
This social story about hearing “no” helps children build the emotional tools they need to cope with limits and disappointment in a healthy and respectful way.
