Non Violent Resistance Programme Handbook


The “Non Violent Resistance Programme Handbook” is a comprehensive guide designed for practitioners dealing with child-to-parent violence, an increasingly prevalent issue in some families. This handbook serves as a valuable resource, providing practitioners with a starting point to understand and respond effectively to this form of family violence.

The guide introduces the evidence-based and short-term program called Non Violent Resistance (NVR), offering practical guidelines on how to implement this systemic approach when working with parents and families experiencing child-to-parent violence. It addresses the challenges of denial and minimisation of the issue, providing support to practitioners in assisting parents to address this type of family violence.

The handbook covers various sections, starting with an introduction to child-to-parent violence and an overview of the NVR program. It discusses key facts about violence in the family, explores the connection between child-to-parent violence and domestic violence, and presents evidence supporting the use of NVR.

Additionally, the handbook includes sections on assessment and engagement, session plans for both group and individual sessions, frequently asked questions, and supports for sessions. It also provides useful resources such as exercises, feedback forms, recommended reading, and helpful links.


Section A
Introduction to Child to Parent Violence and the Non Violent Resistance (NVR) Programme
Silence and Child to Parent Violence
What is Child to Parent Violence?
What is the NVR Programme
What was the background to the development of the NVR Programme in Ireland?
What are the Core Elements of the NVR Programme?
How is NVR different from other parenting programmes?
How can practitioners use this NVR handbook?
What do we mean by “parent“ and “families“?
Who are the authors?

Section B
Key Facts
Different ways of thinking about violence in the family
Child to Parent Violence and Domestic Violence
How common is Child to Parent Violence?
Are some parents more likely to experience Child to Parent Violence?
Why do some children use Child to Parent Violence?
What is the Evidence Supporting the Use of NVR?

Section C
Assessment and Engagement: Preparing to Use the NVR Programme with Parents
Initial engagement and assessment
Who attends the sessions?
How do I assess the nature and extent of Child to Parent Violence in this family?
A brief outline of the NVR programme for parents

Section D
Session Plans for both Groups and Individual Sessions
Parents reflections on what seems to work
The Core Elements of the NVR Programme
Session Structure
Session 1 – Commitment to NVR, Goals and De-escalation Skills
Session 2 – the Support Network
Externalising the problem – the problem is the problem, not the child
Session 3 – Increased Parental Presence
Session 4: The Announcement
Session 5: Acts of Reconciliation
Session 6: Refusing Orders and Breaking Taboos
Breaking Taboos
Session 7: The Sit-In
What if…? Trouble-shooting the Sit-In
The child ignores the parent during the Sit-In
The child attempts to make a deal with parents or claims not to understand
The child makes a promise or suggestion
The child screams to try to get the attention of others
The child attacks the parent or attempts to leave the room
Session 8 (or later) The NVR Review Meeting/ Programme End Meeting

Section E
Frequently Asked Questions

Section F
Supports for Sessions
Useful Exercises
Non-Violent Resistance Programme : Parents Session Feedback Form
Non Violent Resistance Programme : Parents Course Feedback Form
Non Violent Resistance Programme : Practitioner Feedback Form
Appendix I –Recommended Reading and References
Appendix II – Helpful Links



Non-violent Resistance Programme: Parent Workbook

The “Non-violent Resistance Programme Parent Workbook” is a comprehensive guide for parents and carers dealing with children and adolescents exhibiting violent behaviors. It provides a structured framework for understanding and implementing non-violent resistance techniques. This resource offers practical strategies and exercises designed to reinforce positive, caring relationships and reduce conflict in families, fostering a more harmonious home environment.

Non-violent Resistance Programme: Parent Workbook