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Domestic Abuse | Violence Safety Plan Worksheet for Victims and Survivors

This printable Domestic Abuse Safety Plan is a practical worksheet that helps victims and survivors of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, coercive control, and abusive relationships plan steps to increase…

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Cycle of Abuse Wheel – Free Printable PDF Diagram of Domestic Violence Stages

This free printable PDF poster explains the cycle of abuse in relationships using a clear and simple cycle of abuse diagram. It shows the cycle of abuse stages, including tension…

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Types of Domestic Abuse: Signs and Behaviours Cards

The Domestic Abuse Signs and Behaviours Cards are a free, printable PDF tool designed to help people understand the different types of domestic abuse and how they may appear in…

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Coercive Behaviour Explanation Domestic Abuse Poster

This free printable PDF poster explains coercive control and how it fits within domestic abuse and domestic violence, helping people recognise patterns of emotional abuse and controlling behaviour in relationships….

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Who Can I Talk To? – Feelings and Support Worksheet for Children

Who Can I Talk To? is a simple, child-friendly worksheet designed to help children identify safe and trusted people they can talk to when they feel worried, sad, scared, or…

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Respect 1-1 Programme Manual – Working with Domestic Abusers | Intervention & Behaviour Change Resource

This free Respect 1-1 Programme Manual is a comprehensive, evidence-based intervention guide designed for professionals working individually with people who have used domestic abuse in relationships. Developed with input from…

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Gaslighting Explained – Free Awareness Poster This free “What is Gaslighting?” poster explains gaslighting in simple, clear language for people with no prior knowledge of the term. It covers signs…

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No Excuses for Domestic Abuse – Free Domestic Violence Awareness Poster

This free printable No Excuses for Domestic Abuse poster is a clear and powerful domestic abuse awareness resource designed to challenge common excuses for abusive behaviour. It is a downloadable…

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Emotional Abuse (Domestic Abuse) Iceberg Poster

This section links to a clear, printable PDF that explains emotional abuse using the iceberg model. It shows how emotional abuse and coercive control can look harmless or even positive…

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How Do You Want Your Kids to Remember You: A Workbook For Fathers Who Have Harmed Their Partners and Families and Want to Change

“How Do You Want Your Kids to Remember You?A Workbook for Fathers Who Have Harmed Their Partners and Families and Want to Change” is a detailed and transformative guide designed…

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Fluffy Finds a Safe Space: Story with Safety Planning Worksheets for Children Dealing with Parents Fighting

“Fluffy Finds a Safe Space: A Story with Safety Planning Worksheets for Children Dealing with Parents’ Fighting” provides a story, guide for professionals and worksheets to help children think about…

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Teen power and control wheel

The ‘Teen power and control wheel’ illustrates different forms of abuse or unhealthy behavior that can occur in teen relationships. It divides these behaviors into several categories: Physical violence –…

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Domestic abuse through your child’s eyes: Parenting guide

This resource is a guide for parents who have experienced domestic abuse to help them understand the impacts on their children and how to support them. It emphasizes that even…

He takes responsibility for his behaviour He acknowledges and accepts responsibility for what he's done, fully acknowledges that he used abuse to control you and that it was wrong He doesn't blame you, other people, his stress, his job, or any other outside circumstances for his behaviour He is no longer denies his behaviour, makes light of it, or makes excuses for it He acknowledges that he chose to behave this way instead of saying that other people made him do it, or that he can't control himself He fully understands and acknowledges that what he did was wrong He admits lies, he admits what he's done and is not longer making up stories to make himself look better He no longer tries to hide his behaviour from others He understands that recovery from abusiveness takes a long time and he'll have to work at it for a long, long time He understand the effects of his behaviour He understands what his behaviour has cost you He understands fully that you and your children have been hurt by what he's done, and the ways in which you've been hurt He will talk with you in depth (if you want to) about how you feel, your fear, your hurt, your anger, your rights, your lack of trust for him and understands fully that it is his behaviour that has caused it He is sorry for what he's done, and is working hard to overcome the damage he's done and is actively making up for it by giving you back what is rightfully yours - money, rights, freedoms, choices, etc. He understands that it will take his victims a long time to recover from what he's done to them He respects you He is proving to you that he understands that you're a human being with rights and is no longer trying to take them away from you - no more double standards He understands that you're an equal human being, and he's not superior to you He's pulling his weight He respects your opinions, even the ones he disagrees with He accepts your right to be angry with him for what he's done He respects your right to independence and your right to freedom Respect Phoneline – How to tell if your abusive partner is changing He changes his behaviour He is no longer violent in any way He is making a big effort to be non abusive He does not pressure you, intimidate or threaten you He is no longer blocking communication - he listens and respects what you have to say He will discuss with you the controlling behaviours and attitudes he's had You can speak and act freely without him retaliating If he tries to control you, you can point it out to him and he'll stop When you express anger at him, he listens instead of getting angry and trying to shout you down, threatening you or trying to convince you that something's wrong with you for feeling that way He stops interfering in your friendships and family relationships and you are able to re-establish and repair these, and make new friends He stops monitoring your movements, demanding to know where you are and who's there He stops expecting sex on demand He's stopped drinking He's fair with money, allowing you to have your assets in your name, a job if you want He takes responsibility for what he does and how it affects you and the children He no longer treats you like a servant How to tell he’s not changing He continues to be violent in any way He threatens and tries to intimidate you. This will often include threats to attack family and friends, threats to kill you or "put out a contract on you." Threats that he will take the children away or get custody of them himself, or threats to kill himself He badmouths you to the children / others He says "I can't change unless you do" This means that he's trying to get you to agree to give up your rights and freedoms in exchange for him not abusing you He tries to get sympathy from you, family members, and friends He is still lying to you, the children, your family or other people about what he's done He won't acknowledge that it was wrong. He doesn't seem sorry that he did it, he only seems sorry that he has suffered some consequences for it He refuses to let the subject of his abuse come up or gets angry when it does. He won't discuss his controlling behaviours and attitudes. He still tries to deny it, minimize it, excuse it, or justify it He plays victim. He says "How could you do this to me.?" He still whines and blames you for all the problems He is overly charming, always trying to remind you of all the good times you had together and ignore the bad. He tries to buy you back with romantic gifts, dinners, flowers. All while trying to convince you that you need to stay together to work it out He will not get help or says he'll get counselling or other help, but never does Respect Phoneline – How to tell if your abusive partner is changing He does get help and then tries to convince you that he's cured and you need to take him back now He might suddenly claim to have found God; he goes to church a few times He cries and begs, particularly in a public situation so that you are embarrassed and appear to be "cold hearted'' He does things to try to sabotage your efforts to make it on your own He harasses or stalks you. If you ask him for space or time, he refuses to allow you to have any and continues to make contact in any way he can. Harassment by phone calls, threats, legal frustrations, showing up at work, hanging around family. He continues to restrict your rights. He still behaves as if he's superior. You aren't able to express yourself and speak freely He still demands constant attention, won't allow you to take care of your own needs He still picks at you and criticizes you, and ignores your strengths and contributions to the relationship He doesn't support your independence, still refuses to acknowledge that you have rights He puts his wants and needs above yours He doesn't recognize the damage he's done. He gets angry with you over the consequences you've suffered over his abuse He's mad or seems confused as to why you fear him, don't trust him, are hurt, and angry He tries to get out of the consequences by trying to convince you that something's wrong with you He's mad that you left, instead of recognizing your right to have done so He still acts like you owe him He's impatient or critical with you for not forgiving him immediately, for not being satisfied with the changes he may have already made, especially if he hasn't made the changes you requested, or hasn't changed but claims he has He's only concerned with how hard the situation is for him, and no one else. He feels sorry for himself He doesn't show appropriate concern for how you and the children feel about what he's done. Abuse does more than just hurt, it is damaging, and if he doesn't show appropriate concern for the damage he's done, then he hasn't changed He says he can only change if you help him, he wants emotional support and forgiveness He says "I'm changing" but you can see that he's not. He gets angry with you for not realizing how much he's changed. He gets angry for not trusting that he's changed for good. Abusive men often say I'm sorry then get mad if you don't immediately forget what they did, he thinks his sorry resolves the matter and it should be dropped and you should just move forward He pressures you into taking him back

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How to tell if your abusive partner is changing guide

The “How to Tell If Your Abusive Partner Is Changing Guide” is a comprehensive resource that aims to help individuals in abusive relationships identify signs of genuine change in their…

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Domestic abuse worksheets for children

“Domestic Abuse Worksheets for Children” is a valuable resource designed to support children who have been affected by domestic abuse. The workbook contains a collection of worksheets that aim to…

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Safety Planning with Children & Youth: Domestic Abuse

“Safety Planning with Children & Youth: Domestic Abuse” is a comprehensive resource designed to assist professionals, caregivers, and individuals working with children and young people who have been impacted by…

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The Different Types of Abusers: Domestic Abuse Poster

This free printable poster, “The Different Types of Abusers”, is a downloadable PDF that explains common patterns of abusive and controlling behaviour in domestic abuse and domestic violence. It describes…

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Programme for victims and survivors of domestic abuse – The Power to Change

The Power to Change booklet is a valuable resource for setting up and running support groups for domestic violence survivors. It covers topics such as facilitator competencies, group development and…

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Teen relationship abuse: Safety Plan

The Teen Relationship Abuse Safety Plan is a comprehensive and practical guide specifically designed to assist teenagers who are experiencing abuse in their relationships. The safety plan focuses on different…

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I Have Two Homes – video story for children about separation/divorce

“I Have Two Homes” is a video story designed for children who are experiencing separation or divorce in their families. This honest and heartfelt story follows the journey of Nina…

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What happens when a relative is sent to prison: A booklet for children aged 4 – 11

“What happens when a relative is sent to prison: A booklet for children aged 4 – 11” is a helpful resource designed to explain the impact and changes that occur…

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Safety planning tool for children affected by domestic abuse

The Safety Planning Tool for children affected by domestic abuse is a valuable resource aimed at helping children and young people develop strategies to keep themselves safe in situations involving…

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6 session feelings programme for children affected by domestic abuse

The 6 session Feelings Programme is a structured guide designed to help children and young people who have been affected by domestic abuse develop a better understanding of their emotions…

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Adolescent violence to parents: a booklet for parents & carers

The “Adolescent Violence to Parents: A Booklet for Parents & Carers” is a comprehensive 16-page information booklet designed to support parents and caregivers dealing with adolescent violence. It covers various…

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The Teen Relationship Workbook: for professionals helping teens to develop healthy relationships and prevent domestic abuse; 68 worksheets

The Teen Relationship Workbook is a valuable resource designed for professionals working with teenagers to address and prevent relationship abuse. With a collection of 68 worksheets, this workbook can be…

Coping with domestic abuse: Booklet for CHILDREN aged 6 to 12

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Domestic Abuse | Violence Safety Plan Worksheet for Victims and Survivors

Cycle of Abuse Wheel – Free Printable PDF Diagram of Domestic Violence Stages

Types of Domestic Abuse: Signs and Behaviours Cards

Coercive Behaviour Explanation Domestic Abuse Poster

Who Can I Talk To? – Feelings and Support Worksheet for Children

Respect 1-1 Programme Manual – Working with Domestic Abusers | Intervention & Behaviour Change Resource

Free Domestic Abuse PDF Information Sheets

No Excuses for Domestic Abuse – Free Domestic Violence Awareness Poster

Emotional Abuse (Domestic Abuse) Iceberg Poster

How Do You Want Your Kids to Remember You: A Workbook For Fathers Who Have Harmed Their Partners and Families and Want to Change

Fluffy Finds a Safe Space: Story with Safety Planning Worksheets for Children Dealing with Parents Fighting

Teen power and control wheel

Domestic abuse through your child’s eyes: Parenting guide

How to tell if your abusive partner is changing guide

Domestic abuse worksheets for children

Safety Planning with Children & Youth: Domestic Abuse

The Different Types of Abusers: Domestic Abuse Poster

Programme for victims and survivors of domestic abuse – The Power to Change

Teen relationship abuse: Safety Plan

I Have Two Homes – video story for children about separation/divorce

What happens when a relative is sent to prison: A booklet for children aged 4 – 11

Safety planning tool for children affected by domestic abuse

6 session feelings programme for children affected by domestic abuse

Adolescent violence to parents: a booklet for parents & carers

The Teen Relationship Workbook: for professionals helping teens to develop healthy relationships and prevent domestic abuse; 68 worksheets

Coping with domestic abuse: Booklet for CHILDREN aged 6 to 12

Helping teenagers to cope with Domestic Abuse booklet

Coping with domestic abuse: Booklet for PARENTS of children between 6 and 12

Children and Domestic Violence Fact Sheet Series

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