“When I Lose a Game” is a child-friendly social story that helps children understand and manage their feelings when they lose during play. Whether at home, in school, or in group settings, this printable resource supports children in learning how to respond to losing in a calm, respectful and socially appropriate way.
Through gentle language and clear illustrations, the story explains that it is normal to feel sad, disappointed or frustrated when we do not win—but it also shows that we can choose to respond with kindness and good sportsmanship. Children are encouraged to say things like “Good game” or “Well done,” take deep breaths, and remember that losing is a chance to learn and grow.
Key messages in the social story:
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Everyone loses sometimes—even adults
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It is okay to feel upset, but we can still choose respectful behaviour
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Saying kind words and staying calm shows maturity and friendship
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Playing fairly and finishing the game is more important than winning
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We can always try again next time
This resource is ideal for:
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Teaching emotional regulation and social skills in primary schools
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Supporting children with autism, ADHD, or difficulties with peer relationships
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One-to-one or group work in counselling or behaviour support
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Foster care and family work focused on managing frustration and building resilience
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Helping children who struggle with losing in games or competitions
This free social story supports emotional development, resilience, and respectful play. It is a valuable tool for parents, carers, teachers and professionals looking to help children handle disappointment and develop healthy coping skills.
