The booklet aims to support men using violence or abuse towards female partners or ex-partners to change their behaviour. It takes a direct yet compassionate approach to spur self-reflection on the impacts of abuse and the excuses that sustain it.
The booklet asks men to seriously consider how their actions affect their partner’s health, emotions, and the relationship. It covers how children are also harmed by domestic violence even if not directly targeted. Exercises prompt men to identify their specific abusive behaviours and warning signs preceding abuse.
A key theme is taking full responsibility by facing what one has done, rather than minimizing or blaming external factors. The concept of power and control is analysed as central to abuse. Men are encouraged to spot the deliberate choices they make before and during violent incidents.
Practical alternatives are suggested like taking a one hour ‘time out’ when angry and joining an intervention programme. Respect’s confidential helpline number is provided for further support. Recommended books and resources are also listed.
While acknowledging change can be difficult, the booklet emphasizes that men are capable of choosing non-violence and building respect. Its insights into abusive mindsets combined with validation of men’s desire for healthy relationships work to inspire change. The guidance can increase self-awareness and prevent future harm.
Overall the booklet sends an important message that with courage and commitment to change, men can have mutually loving equitable relationships. Its non-judgemental tone makes it accessible for men at varying stages of acknowledging their abuse.
FREE DOWNLOAD OF BOOKLET: INFORMATION FOR MEN WHO ARE CONCERNED ABOUT THEIR BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS THEIR FEMALE PARTNERS