This free downloadable PDF is a one page poster that explains why children, kids and young people calm quicker when adults connect with them before correcting behaviour. It shows, in simple language, how a calm adult presence helps a child feel safe enough to listen, think and take in guidance. The poster also explains what happens in the brain when a child feels overwhelmed and why they cannot follow instructions or limits until their body has settled.
The resource sets out practical steps adults can use in the moment, such as using a steady voice, slowing movements, giving space and showing safety through body language. It encourages adults to name the feeling rather than the behaviour, which helps the child feel understood instead of judged. It also makes clear what connection is not and reminds adults that correction only works once the child is calm and ready to learn.
This printable guide is helpful for parents, carers, teachers, social workers, foster carers, youth workers, counsellors and therapists who support children or teens with strong emotions, anxiety, emotional dysregulation or behaviour linked to distress. It is suitable for home use, schools, therapy rooms and family support work, and offers a quick visual reminder of how to help a child regain control and build new skills after a difficult moment.
