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Young person’s guide to understanding and coping with low mood

“A Young Person’s Guide to Understanding and Coping with Low Mood” is an empowering and informative workbook designed to help teens navigate the complexities of low mood and develop effective…

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Managing self-harm: A young person’s guide to understanding and coping with self-harm

Managing self-harm: A young person’s guide to understanding and coping with self-harm is a comprehensive workbook designed to support individuals who have engaged in self-harming behaviors as a way to…

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Building Skills That Strengthen Resilience Adult/Young People’s Guide

The Bouncing Back Workbook: Building Skills That Strengthen Resilience Adult/Young People’s Guide is a comprehensive and practical workbook designed to help individuals develop resilience and bounce back from life’s challenges….

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The Grit Guide for Teens: A Workbook to Help You Build Perseverance, Self-Control & a Growth Mindset

“The Grit Guide for Teens” is a valuable workbook designed to help teenagers build essential character traits such as perseverance, self-control, and a growth mindset. The guide introduces the concept…

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How safe is your child at home? Home safety guide for parents

The “Home Safety Guide for Parents” is a useful resource designed to help parents and caregivers create a safe and secure environment for children under the age of five within…

He takes responsibility for his behaviour He acknowledges and accepts responsibility for what he's done, fully acknowledges that he used abuse to control you and that it was wrong He doesn't blame you, other people, his stress, his job, or any other outside circumstances for his behaviour He is no longer denies his behaviour, makes light of it, or makes excuses for it He acknowledges that he chose to behave this way instead of saying that other people made him do it, or that he can't control himself He fully understands and acknowledges that what he did was wrong He admits lies, he admits what he's done and is not longer making up stories to make himself look better He no longer tries to hide his behaviour from others He understands that recovery from abusiveness takes a long time and he'll have to work at it for a long, long time He understand the effects of his behaviour He understands what his behaviour has cost you He understands fully that you and your children have been hurt by what he's done, and the ways in which you've been hurt He will talk with you in depth (if you want to) about how you feel, your fear, your hurt, your anger, your rights, your lack of trust for him and understands fully that it is his behaviour that has caused it He is sorry for what he's done, and is working hard to overcome the damage he's done and is actively making up for it by giving you back what is rightfully yours - money, rights, freedoms, choices, etc. He understands that it will take his victims a long time to recover from what he's done to them He respects you He is proving to you that he understands that you're a human being with rights and is no longer trying to take them away from you - no more double standards He understands that you're an equal human being, and he's not superior to you He's pulling his weight He respects your opinions, even the ones he disagrees with He accepts your right to be angry with him for what he's done He respects your right to independence and your right to freedom Respect Phoneline – How to tell if your abusive partner is changing He changes his behaviour He is no longer violent in any way He is making a big effort to be non abusive He does not pressure you, intimidate or threaten you He is no longer blocking communication - he listens and respects what you have to say He will discuss with you the controlling behaviours and attitudes he's had You can speak and act freely without him retaliating If he tries to control you, you can point it out to him and he'll stop When you express anger at him, he listens instead of getting angry and trying to shout you down, threatening you or trying to convince you that something's wrong with you for feeling that way He stops interfering in your friendships and family relationships and you are able to re-establish and repair these, and make new friends He stops monitoring your movements, demanding to know where you are and who's there He stops expecting sex on demand He's stopped drinking He's fair with money, allowing you to have your assets in your name, a job if you want He takes responsibility for what he does and how it affects you and the children He no longer treats you like a servant How to tell he’s not changing He continues to be violent in any way He threatens and tries to intimidate you. This will often include threats to attack family and friends, threats to kill you or "put out a contract on you." Threats that he will take the children away or get custody of them himself, or threats to kill himself He badmouths you to the children / others He says "I can't change unless you do" This means that he's trying to get you to agree to give up your rights and freedoms in exchange for him not abusing you He tries to get sympathy from you, family members, and friends He is still lying to you, the children, your family or other people about what he's done He won't acknowledge that it was wrong. He doesn't seem sorry that he did it, he only seems sorry that he has suffered some consequences for it He refuses to let the subject of his abuse come up or gets angry when it does. He won't discuss his controlling behaviours and attitudes. He still tries to deny it, minimize it, excuse it, or justify it He plays victim. He says "How could you do this to me.?" He still whines and blames you for all the problems He is overly charming, always trying to remind you of all the good times you had together and ignore the bad. He tries to buy you back with romantic gifts, dinners, flowers. All while trying to convince you that you need to stay together to work it out He will not get help or says he'll get counselling or other help, but never does Respect Phoneline – How to tell if your abusive partner is changing He does get help and then tries to convince you that he's cured and you need to take him back now He might suddenly claim to have found God; he goes to church a few times He cries and begs, particularly in a public situation so that you are embarrassed and appear to be "cold hearted'' He does things to try to sabotage your efforts to make it on your own He harasses or stalks you. If you ask him for space or time, he refuses to allow you to have any and continues to make contact in any way he can. Harassment by phone calls, threats, legal frustrations, showing up at work, hanging around family. He continues to restrict your rights. He still behaves as if he's superior. You aren't able to express yourself and speak freely He still demands constant attention, won't allow you to take care of your own needs He still picks at you and criticizes you, and ignores your strengths and contributions to the relationship He doesn't support your independence, still refuses to acknowledge that you have rights He puts his wants and needs above yours He doesn't recognize the damage he's done. He gets angry with you over the consequences you've suffered over his abuse He's mad or seems confused as to why you fear him, don't trust him, are hurt, and angry He tries to get out of the consequences by trying to convince you that something's wrong with you He's mad that you left, instead of recognizing your right to have done so He still acts like you owe him He's impatient or critical with you for not forgiving him immediately, for not being satisfied with the changes he may have already made, especially if he hasn't made the changes you requested, or hasn't changed but claims he has He's only concerned with how hard the situation is for him, and no one else. He feels sorry for himself He doesn't show appropriate concern for how you and the children feel about what he's done. Abuse does more than just hurt, it is damaging, and if he doesn't show appropriate concern for the damage he's done, then he hasn't changed He says he can only change if you help him, he wants emotional support and forgiveness He says "I'm changing" but you can see that he's not. He gets angry with you for not realizing how much he's changed. He gets angry for not trusting that he's changed for good. Abusive men often say I'm sorry then get mad if you don't immediately forget what they did, he thinks his sorry resolves the matter and it should be dropped and you should just move forward He pressures you into taking him back

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How to tell if your abusive partner is changing guide

The “How to Tell If Your Abusive Partner Is Changing Guide” is a comprehensive resource that aims to help individuals in abusive relationships identify signs of genuine change in their…

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Your Kids and Alcohol: A guide for parents

“Your Kids and Alcohol: A Guide for Parents” is a comprehensive resource that offers guidance and information on underage drinking for parents. The guide covers various topics, including why children…

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Understanding Bedwetting (Enuresis): A guide for parents/carers

“Understanding Bedwetting (Enuresis): A Guide for Parents/Carers” is a helpful resource that provides information and guidance regarding bedwetting in children. It aims to support parents and caregivers in understanding the…

Survive to Thrive Guide: A Resource for Parents of a Child with an Eating Disorder

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Resource guide for parents of a child with an eating disorder

‘Survive to Thrive Guide: A Resource for Parents of a Child with an Eating Disorder’ is a comprehensive and supportive booklet written by parents who have personal experience with a…

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Teach Kids About Autism: Kit for Kids Engaging Programme

The “Teach Kids About Autism: Kit for Kids” is an engaging program designed to educate elementary and middle school students about autism and promote inclusivity in the classroom. The kit…

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All Emotions are OK: Booklet for Children

“All Emotions are OK” is a heartfelt booklet designed for children and their families to explore and embrace a wide range of emotions. The booklet is divided into three sections:…

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How to beat anxiety: Self help workbook for children

“How to Beat Anxiety: Self-Help Workbook for Children” is a comprehensive resource designed to assist children in managing and overcoming anxiety. The workbook is divided into six weekly sections, each…

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Strengthening Families Program: Handouts & Worksheets

“Strengthening Families Program: Handouts & Worksheets” is a comprehensive resource that supports the Strengthening Families Program for children aged 7-17. The program aims to enhance family relationships and develop essential…

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Videos for Kids on Honesty and Lying

Social Emotional Learning – HONESTY for Kids | EQ Skills Why is it important to tell the truth? Help kids build important emotional intelligence skills with this delightful video about…

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Understanding your child’s behaviour: Information booklet for parents of disabled children

This comprehensive booklet is specifically designed to support parents or carers of disabled children who may have concerns about their child’s behavior. It offers valuable insights and practical strategies to…

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Boss of My Body – A Sexual Abuse Prevention Booklet for Kids

“Boss of My Body” is a vital resource for parents and caregivers to initiate important conversations with children about personal safety, boundaries, and consent. This book empowers children by reinforcing…

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A Parent and Carer’s Resource: Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Child

A Parent and Carer’s Resource: Supporting Your LGBTQ+ Child” is a helpful guide developed by Cara-Friend to assist parents and carers in supporting their child or young person who questions…

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Coming Out: A Handbook for LGBTQ Young People

“Coming Out: A Handbook for LGBTQ Young People” is a comprehensive guide that offers support and guidance to LGBTQ individuals as they navigate the process of coming out. It covers…

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When parents take drugs: Booklet for young children, teens & parents

The “When Parents Take Drugs” booklet is a valuable resource designed to help children understand and cope with a parent or caregiver’s drug or alcohol use. This booklet provides guidance…

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My First Safety Book: Safety Planning Information for Parents of Children ages 4-7

The “My First Safety Book” is an engaging activity book designed for parents to work on with their children aged 4-7, fostering their safety awareness and skills through age-appropriate activities….

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A Terrible Thing Happened: A Child’s Story About Overcoming Trauma

“A Terrible Thing Happened” is a powerful and compassionate children’s story that addresses the impact of trauma. Through the experiences of Sherman Smith, the book explores the emotional struggles faced…

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The Don’t Worry Book for Young Children

“The Don’t Worry Book” by Tedd Parr is a delightful and supportive resource specifically designed for young children. With colourful illustrations and a child-friendly approach, this book aims to help…

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Talking to your child about weight: A guide for parents and caregivers of children aged 4-11 years

“Talking to your child about weight” is a valuable guide specifically created for parents and caregivers of children aged 4-11 years. Its main objective is to equip parents with effective…

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Free ‘The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness Skills to Help You Deal with Stress’

“The Stress Reduction Workbook for Teens: Mindfulness Skills to Help You Deal with Stress” is a practical guide designed to assist teenagers in managing stress effectively. This workbook offers a…

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Safe at Home Tips for Under-5s: Accident Prevention Guide

The “Safe at Home Tips for Under-5s” is an essential accident prevention guide designed to help parents and caregivers create a safe environment for young children. The guide focuses on…

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FAS Parenting Children Affectedby Fetal Alcohol Syndrome: A Guide for Daily Living

The “FAS Parenting Children Affectedby Fetal Alcohol Syndrome: A Guide for Daily Living” is a valuable resource for caregivers and professionals working with children affected by Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)….

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A parent’s and carer’s guide to violence and abuse in teenage relationships

“Teenage Relationship Abuse: A Parent’s and Carer’s Guide to Violence and Abuse in Teenage Relationships” is a useful resource that provides essential information and guidance for parents and caregivers regarding…

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Nobody is allowed to harm you: A book for children & young people to help them understand what abuse and neglect means

“Nobody is allowed to harm you: A book for children and young people to help them understand what abuse and neglect means” is a valuable resource that aims to educate…

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Free ‘The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens: A Non-Diet, Body Positive Approach to Building a Healthy Relationship with Food’

“The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens: A Non-Diet, Body Positive Approach to Building a Healthy Relationship with Food” is a comprehensive guide designed to help teenagers overcome common eating challenges…

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Emotionally Based School Avoidance: Guide for Parents

This comprehensive guide, titled “Emotionally Based School Avoidance: A Guide for Parents,” is designed to provide parents with valuable insights and strategies to support their children who are experiencing emotionally…